5 REASONS WHY WE SHOULD ASK: “WHO AM I” THAN “WHAT HAVE I ACHIEVED”?
An additional reflection from #BacktoBasics Conference : Reshaping The Way We Live, Special Edition. Seoul, October 12-14, 2017.
We’ve been growing up with the society who praises the achievement more than oneself well-being, even maybe it has been expected before we were born. The society who would always love to hear someone’s success story : “You have done this — you proudly have done that, you should keep going and stay positive to achieve your dreams”
We are designed to be dreamers, who shouldn’t quit, who should stand up no matters how many times you have failed.
We give the stage to those who have dreams; we are a just soulless protein or bunch or atoms if we don’t have any dreams to achieve or any success story to tell. Everyone has been sharing the same race to some goals and living in the next goal directions.
But wait, shall we take little pause moment to come into ourselves, to take a deep breath, take it a little longer, maybe to walk slowly, take more stops if we need to, walk a little slower once again, go further or take some stops again, as long as we want it?
…. and I found here are some reasons why we should pay more attention to “Who Am I” than “What Have I Achieved” :
1. To understand oneself is to understand others
The more we understand ourselves, the more we have a better relationship with others. It takes a self-assessment understanding of oneself before going out to see others perspective and values.
At http://backtobasics.kr/ workshop Yuhki Woody Ugadawa and ba-um.jp team invited us to involve in place making bootcamp, especially to improve the relationship in between one and another.
During this place-making workshop, those relationship-based designs lead us to a better understanding of others by taking some reflective moment during some interactions that might seem simple but actually meaningful.
2. If we want to be truly happy, we shouldn’t compare ourselves with others
As we know that comparing ourselves is a never-ending task with the same result: it would make us unhappy, or a less happy.
Let’s take a little more time to be more focused on ourselves here, to be in charge of our own plate of happiness, to be our great listener to ourselves,
to be own comfort home after long day at work.
3. We need more content individuals to create a happier society
As happiness is something contagious, each happy individual will influence the happier community or even society and vice versa. But it takes self-conscious happy individuals to create and influences more people in the society, because it’s where the happy spider will create the stronger happy network.
The happier society: don’t you think it’s all just we need eventually?
In order to pay more attention into “Who Am I” instead of “What Have I Achieved” we need more diversity in our society, especially in the way of we think — in our mindset to see our life beyond what we have built together : where everyone is allowed to stay connected with their own inner peace, to achieve or to not achieve something is equally treated, in the praise of oneself well-being.
4. Nothing more liberating than creating oneself, based on what you truly believe.
It would be an uneasy path of course, but if finally the hardest path is our true calling… wouldn’t it be more rewarding?
5. …. and after all, because we need to come back to ourselves: where our true home is :)
Because after long and winding road, the journey we take inside ourselves is all that we need :)
I hope we can celebrate and say cheers to those who are happy spider even not an achiever.
Would you another step of basics by being brave to discover more about “Who Am I” and what my real purpose in life instead of “What Have I Achieved?”
It’s okay to take some slow walk into this calling, but the journey into ourselves is waiting :)
Also read our journal from the whole #BacktoBasics conference here :
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